Our Marriage

I have been sleeping really late recently although I talked to Cu that we have to start sleeping between 12 to 1am (for our own health!). We always go to bed together, but it doesn't mean that we always do things together. Most of the time, we are on our own computers doing our own things. He plays his computer games, and I chat with my friends online or check my emails from my Malaysian friends who are at work and keep replying the email every single second. It keeps me busy, and I enjoy catching up with my friends with many things that happen in our life.

Last night, I was watching the "Poor Brides, Rich Brides" and "Platinum Wedding" on We Channel. Those are the reality tv show of couples who are getting married, and the show films the process of their planning to their actual day. I like to watch these shows even before I was planning to get married. They always give you the dreams and ideas of what you can do for your wedding or sometime they also give you the idea of what you are "not supposed" to do as a bride or a partner of your loved one.

Many times, BUDGET is a big word when it comes to the wedding planning. I always tell myself that the happiness is the most important thing if two persons are getting married, although I have my own ideal wedding, I would try my best to be "rational" on our wedding planning so that I would not scare my dear husband too much. Haha...

Cu always said that we are considered married because we already had our wedding ceremony at the court and exchanged our vows and rings. Yes, we are officially registered husband and wife through the law on February 28, 2009! And it would be one year anniversary on this coming February 28, 2010! One year already! Phew~ Time flies! I have been married for almost one year!

But according to Chinese culture, if you haven't have the Chinese traditional wedding ceremony, you are still considered "unmarried" regardless. Because Chinese has an important tea ceremony that all couples should go through when they are married, to show their respects to their elders, to announce the news that they are married, most importantly to be accepted by the family members.

I always joke with Cu that he haven't even meet my parents and my other family members yet. It's true. So he still has to go through all those ceremony to meet them and to be "accepted". Haha... I am the only daughter my parents have. And they always want to see me to get married in a beautiful wedding dress. My dad was not happy to know that I got married through court without him there. So I told Cu that the traditional tea ceremony is a must! We cannot skip that. Haha...

The point is, we will do the traditional tea ceremony and wedding dinner in Malaysia, but we still cannot decide the time. We are planning to move to California when our lease is over and he gets the job that he is trying to apply, and I still plan to go back to school after everything is settled down. Wedding planning seems to be still so far away. But I definitely miss home a lot!

This morning, I set my alarm to wake up the same time Cu gets up. I used to sleep till afternoon when I am not working. But last night I thought about we always got up together when we first married. We would walk Nini together when he is heating his car engine, and I would walk Nini back home myself after he left. So I thought it would be nice to get up from the bed together and spend a little time together before he goes to work again, like how we always did.

Sometimes we get used to the person and habits, and we forgot that a little details like this could make each other happy. I made some milk green tea for both of us, and we played with Nini for a while before he goes to work. I was secretly telling myself that we have to keep doing this little simple things that could lighten up our days easily. And I actually consider myself being single, so that the relationship won't grow too old too fast. Haha... I know. This is just my silly thought.

I was surfing on brides.com and found some pretty wedding dresses.
This is the wedding dress that is designed by Maggie Sottero. I always like this type of dress that has single shoulder strap. It is simple yet elegant for beach wedding. I would like a beach wedding for myself. But if that changes, I still would like to keep my dress simple and elegant like that.
This is a runway wedding dress that is designed by Vera Wang. I like the lightness of the bottom of the dress, look so feather-like yet create a volume for ballroom dress. If my wedding is indoor, I hope my ideal wedding dress would be something like this.
Trumpet skirt is one of my most favorite design. It creates the hour glass body shape for the brides. Matthew Christopher creates the luxurious feeling by his simple, sleek gown. I love this dress so much and I don't even know what I should expect for my wedding dress after seeing so many beautiful wedding dresses!

In this one year, I learned a lot of things through our relationship. We argued, we talked, we made-up. And I realized that there are so many things in the relationship that we have to learn to maintain our relationship strong. Wedding is definitely not the only thing that could keep us together. The heart is important. And the efforts are especially crucial when misunderstanding happens.

I love Cu, and I would keep learning how to make our relationship better and bring the best from each other to make our marriage works better.






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