Happy 30th Birthday!!

May 14, Monday.

I woke up around 9:30am and found out that Cu was still in bed!  He was supposed to be on a training for his new job at 8am!  I woke him up, and he jumped up from the bed knowing that he was totally late for his new job!  I went back to sleep after I saw him left.


May 13, Sunday.  The Mother's Day.

We came home from Savannah around 9:28pm last night.  We are having a new girl who is going to move in to our house as a tenant for a room downstairs in this two days.  Her name is Nhung, I still don't know how to pronounce her name correctly.  But I will get it right eventually, hope she doesn't mind.

It was a great Sunday in Savannah.  We spent an afternoon at Cu's oldest aunt's house.  She has a private dock in the back of her house.  Huge back yard with whole lot of space for grilling and cooking and fishing!  Anything you can think of, she has it in her back yard!

Some people fishing, some people crabbing.  His father laid out the shot glasses for the Remy Martin Cognac, having some good times, drinking with his brothers and sisters and some in-laws!  I had to take a shot before I left, he was happy that I was being a good daughter-in-law!  Haha.  I like my father-in-law!

I learned that Cu's family like to give away the lottery or scratch off tickets on the Mother's Day.  I like the idea, it was not expansive, and everyone are happy with the "chance to be a winner"!  Even I am not a mother yet, two of Cu's aunties gave me lottery ticket too!  Hehe.  I hope I win!  "I wanna be a millionaire so freaking bad~~" like how it is sang in a song!  Haha...

I honestly think that everyone in Cu's family like me except the three main ladies in his family.  I like to think positive, but positive minds can't turn a person to like you.  Everyone else in Cu's family had offered me to teach me how to cook Vietnamese dish so that I can please my MOTHER.  I guess it was obvious for everyone to notice that she doesn't like me and still cannot accept me as his daughter-in-law.

About this in-law problems...

It doesn't bother me much, and I am doing what I am supposed to do and stay away from troubles and troubles maker.  God knows who they are and the reasons why they are doing so.  I pray on this Mother's day, that I will try my best be a good person as long as no one crosses my borderline.


May 12, Saturday.  A Friend's Wedding Day.

I never drank so much alcohol since long time ago.  But boy, I had the most fun ever tonight.  I woke up the next day walking wobbly.  Other than that, I was glad to find out that I didn't have the worst hang over!!

I had some disagreements with Cu in the beginning of the wedding, how I didn't like him to walk around before the wedding started.  We both were not happy, and I quickly realized that "this is not what I want!"  My brain took an emergency brake, and asking myself "What do I really want?"

Like the millions time I told everyone how much the book that I have been reading have helping me changes the way how I solve problems, what I learned from the book quickly came back to my mind when things went wrong.

I took a deep breath and talked to Cu calmly about "what I really wanted"...  What I really wanted for both of us was to have some good times for the wedding!!  In order to have some good times, let's eat some food before we go around to talk to other friends and start the drinking!!  And we did!!  He didn't get totally drunk, and I didn't get totally wasted.  But we both had fun and didn't have too bad of hang over the next day.  I think the goal has been met!!  We did good.  And I told myself, "I did good!".

May 11, Friday.  Leaving for Savannah.

It was not a pleasant evening after what Cu said about my education to Anh's mother who traveled along with us to Savannah.  I was mad at him for not understanding me even we have married for three years!!  After all this years, he still doesn't understand why I didn't complete my pharmacy school.  I was angry at him for telling everyone that the reason why I didn't finish my school in past 10 years was because I kept changing my majors!!

And NO, I DID NOT DO THAT!

I was too tired to tell him repeatedly about the reason why I didn't complete my pharmacy school.  I told him that he didn't need to hear my explanation anymore since he chose what he wanted to remember no matter what I said.  He didn't even remember that I graduated from my associate degree in Biological and Physical Science!  In his mind, he always think that I am a woman who didn't even finish my associate degree!  How can I not be mad at him as it is not like I never tell him about it??

The evening turned better when I decided to have fun for my weekend.  It was for me, not that I forgave him.  I knew I would bring up this topic again, but not during this trip.  Let's just have fun!  It's my Birthday Weekend anyway!!


May 10, Thursday.  My 30th Birthday.

It was my 30th birthday, and I celebrated it by working two places all day long.  In the end of the night of May 9, 2012, I went back to sleep without getting any gift from my husband who were playing his game all night long!  I was very disappointed and went back to sleep sadly.

In the early morning, when I woke up to go to work, I received some text messages from Cu that made me angry at him totally when he mentioned what his mom said about what I did to his sister.

I never understand why would people bring up a topic that happened long time ago, and I was mad at him for bringing it up on my birthday!!  Moreover, whatever happened in the past, was not my fault if his sister never talked DIRECTLY to me about WHAT SHE REALLY WANTED!!  I was furious!

I refused to tell Cu where I worked when he wanted to visit me at work after I told him "By the way today is my birthday, thank you!".  I was angry enough to not contact Cu the entire day of my birthday, and all I could do was tearing up every time I thought about what he said what his family talked about me!

HOW COULD HE DOES IT TO ME?

How could a person hurt his loved one?  Even not intentionally.  I refused to understand his situation or his difficulties at that point.

I felt better the next day after he explained to me what exactly happened and how the topic was brought up. I was totally torn that I became the rudest person in his family!  But I felt bad for him because of what his mother said to him.

God, please give me the strength to be a stronger and bigger person so I can continue forgiving and forgetting.

On my 30th Birthday, I wish to myself, I will be a better person this year, and happier and healthier.